DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

I'm a survivor of "domestic violence" at the hands of my ex-boyfriend. Nothing was done about him abusing me. There were two incidences and each time the local law enforcement came out I felt as though they were threating me if I called them again that my child and grandchild would be placed in foster care and that I would be going to jail along with my abuser. The first incident when I answered the door I had blood on my face and hand, coughing because he had choked me and yet nothing was done. The second incident, I nearly passed out, he choked me twice during that altercation, I'd lost some body fliuds from being choked....that time they were called out I was again, coughing more serverely, his hand prints still around my neck, lost my voice, again, local law enforcement said if they had to come back I would go to jail with my abuser and my children taken away. Domestic violence is so strong in the military and everybody wants to sweep it under the rug while the women and children are being abused by these "trained killers". It's time to put a stop to the abuse!!! It's time the military take responsibility for there soldiers, before more family members end up dead or tired of being abused and turn the tables on the soldiers, and kill them. It's wrong!!! Don't wait until someone is killed before they do something to the soldier make the punishment hard and swift. Most care more about their careers so tell them what will happen when they commit this crime, it is a crime to beat someone!!! Don't keep retiring these people from the military into civilian life thinking they can get away with it out there. They're not helping these soldiers by doing this. Being abused is NOT a laughing matter!!!! There are children who are witnesses to this crime, they have to watch daddy abuse mommy. Would the people who pass such a light sentence (if one at all) to the abusers like it if it were their mother, sister, grandmother, aunt,or best friend being abused and the abuser knows nothing is going to seriously happen to him. What do they think is going to happen each time the law enforcement.....I'm changing their names to something else, because "enforcement" isn't what they do when they come out. I'll call them, people w/ a badge. But each time they come out on a domestic call, the abuser knows nothing is going to happen to him and he knows he just been given the right to continue to beat the crap out of his victim. I am a "Survivor" of domestic violence and I'm going to help every woman, child I know who's being abused. I get tired of seeing these victims in the news killed at the hands of an abuser. I stopped abuse one night at the apartment complex where I live. The young man is military, they were having a party, all I could hear, just getting off of work at 11:30pm. anyway, long story short....I looked out my window and I could see the young lady legs hanging from the balcony. I opened my patio door and told the young man, very firmly that he "better not drop the young lady off the balcony". He shouted he wasn't when I interven and pulled her back up. My point is people, "DON"T BE AFRAID TO STEP IN AND STOP THE ABUSE" If not for any other night, at least I stopped it that night. Who cares if he gets in trouble with the military, which we know he won't. I can only feel for the few female soldiers who were murdered here in Fayetteville at the hands of another soldier. I can't help but wonder if they hadn't killed the women, what would they have done if the females reported the abuse before their death. What would have happened???? Would the commanders helped them? Or would he just told them not to make contact with the females for a while. It was told to my ex not to make contact for 72 hrs. Do you think he followed those orders? Heck no he didn't!!! If I'd reported it, like every other incident I reported....nothing would have happened. I just want to help stop the abuse. Ladies if you respond to this blog and woould like to talk please feel free to send me a message and I'll be more than happy to assit you. You have to think of your children....even if you think you can't leave for yourselves....look into their eyes, feel what they are feeling each time they see you being struck, bleeding and crying out and no ones there to help you. Forget about you, forget about the abuser, think about them. GET OUT & GET HELP!!!!

Ms. Carmon
babygirl115_76@hotmail.com